Giving respect to Native Americans. The people who were in America when Columbus made his arrival. It’s time they are celebrated for their contributions to American history and culture. No longer should American history be only told from an European viewpoint. The entire history must be told!
This was an interesting read. I’m married and I tried to place myself in Aya’s shoes and couldn’t. It was a little far-fetched to me to totally immerse myself in a past relationship and create such an emotional tie. What really was astounding to me was the level of honesty between Aya and Uri. I do believe marriages need this level of honesty, and there would probably be less divorces. However, I can’t think of any husbands I know that would allow what Uri allowed without some type of demands to stop the behavior.
Another thing that stood out to me was the impact Aya’s and Yaron’s choices has on their families and friends. I did not enjoy the amount of time in the book that was devoted to their letters. I know it showed the level of their emotional attachment, but I think readers could’ve understood the attachment without the amount of letters that were included in the book. The footnotes of information, while interesting, did not add to the book.
Overall, I enjoyed the complexity of marriage that was demonstrated by the book, and I liked the ending, but I wonder what would’ve happened if Aya and Yaron had made different choices.
I received this book for free in exchange for my honest and unbiased review.
Just look at us on the left so young, so in love and so happy! That picture was before marriage, children, responsibilities, trials, temptations and disagreements. Now, look at us on the right.
We have raised children, bought a home, handled our responsibilities, navigated through our differences and disagreements and successfully been married almost 29 years.
Yes, there are days I want to trip him, and I’m sure there are days he wants to muff me upside the head, but we still love each other. If I had to do it again, I would marry the same man. You may ask how we have remained happy with each other. I want to share six points that has helped us along the way.
1. Never Go To Bed Angry – Make every effort to resolve all disagreements before going to bed. Allowing disagreements to fester leads to bitterness and can ultimately lead to divorce.
2. Always Give 100% – If each person gives 100%, the couple always has 100%.
3. NEVER Withhold Sex – Yes, I said it! Sex shouldn’t be used as a weapon. Withholding sex from one another drives a wedge between the couple, and provides an opportunity for intimacy to be broken in the marriage.
4. Make Time For One Another – As the children and responsibilities come, continue to make time for each other. One day the children will grow up and leave, and you don’t want to wake up and realize the person lying next to you is now a stranger.
5. Do Not Sleep Apart – If you’re in the same house, sleep together. Sleeping apart creates distance between you, and distance is not something you want in your marriage.
6. God Must Be First – God must be first in your marriage. Allow Him to lead and guide you. He will be needed in your marriage.
Frequently, I am asked what products do I use on my hair. During a certain period of time in my natural hair journey, I was a product junkie and tried a lot of products. I was searching for the magic products for my hair. Once I took the time to learn the texture, porosity, and elasticity of my hair; I was able to choose the correct products for my hair.
My holy grail products are pictured above, and every product was purchased with my own money.
I LOVE Body Shop’s Rainforest Moisture Shampoo! This is one of the few shampoos that I have used that lives up to its name. When I finish washing my hair, it feel clean and moisturized. Other shampoos I have used would leave my hair feeling clean, but dry. This shampoo is a winner!
Curl Junkie’s Beauticurl’s Aragon & Olive Oil Daily Hair Conditioner is the truth! This conditioner seems to instantly detangle, as well as moisturize my hair. It can be used as a leave-in conditioner too.
Trader Joe’s Nourish Spa Balance Moisturizing Conditioner is the conditioner I use to co-wash. This conditioner has great slip and provides a good moisture boost for my hair. This conditioner is less than three dollars at Trader Joe’s.
Eden BodyWorks Coconut Shea Cleansing CoWash is used for cowashing too. I love the slip and the moisture it provides to my hair. When I finish using the cowash, I don’t feel the need to add a leave-in conditioner to my hair.
Oyin Handmade products have been a mainstay in my regimen, since I discovered them in my second year of being natural. I consistently purchase the Honey Hemp, Hair Dew and Juices & Berries for my hair. I use the Honey Hemp for cowashing and a leave-in conditioner. During the summer months, I use Hair Dew for a leave-in and the Juices & Berries as a refresher.
I wasn’t big on deep conditioning. Since I have my hair colored, I know deep conditioning is essential. There are two deep conditioners that provide the moisture and restorative conditioning my hair needs: The Coiffed Cafe Cocoa Conniption and Blue Roze Beauty’s Cocoa Coffee Rhassoul Hair Mask. These two products may not be available, but the product makers will have comparable products. I love the chocolate smell of both and my hair feels soft and conditioned, after a treatment with either of these products.
I hope my Holy Grail’s can help you in your search for great products and excellent product makers!