There will be winners and losers – deal with it!

Richard Sherman’s post game interview after the NFC Championship game has received a lot of comments, blog posts and of course opinionated comments via social media.  When I saw the post game interview, my first reaction is I didn’t fully understand the source of Richard’s comments.  However, I did understand his trash talking.  I remember playing basketball (hey, don’t laugh I use to play).  There was a lot of talk of who was better than who, and of course things were said before the game and on the court to force the opposing team to lose focus.  A competitor wants to get into the other team members head and cause them to be consumed with the head game, and not play the game that is taking place on the court.  After hearing more of the backstory of Sherman’s rant, I support him and wanted to learn more about him.

Richard Sherman is a young man that grew up in Watts and Compton.  His parents would be considered middle class.  I was reading his blog, which you can view here:http://mmqb.si.com/2013/07/18/richard-sherman-introduction, and found out some interesting facts about him.  This young man’s parents pushed him to excel in the classroom.  He went to Stanford and earned his degree.  After his interview, he has been called the N word, thug, ape, classless, and the list could go on and on.  It seems the racists decided to let us know how they really feel.  His stats on the football field speak for themselves.  Clearly, he was the better than Crabtree that night, and like any competitor would do, he rubbed Crabtree’s face in it.  Back in the day trash talking like that would cause the other player to practice harder and be ready to show what he/she is made of the next time they are competing against one another.

Well, here’s how I feel:  this world has become so politically correct that a competitor can’t trash talk.  We are living in a world where everyone on the team is given a trophy.  Seriously?!  Our children need to know that someone will win and someone will lose.  I know this seems to be a difficult concept for some – deal with it!  Recently, a friend told me his child was on a team and everyone was given a trophy!  This is too politically correct for me!  When did we start celebrating being mediocre?!  If you want to be the best, you have to put in the work to be the best!  If you want to be the MVP, you have to put in the work to be the MVP.  What are we teaching our children by giving everyone on the team a trophy?  

I will tell you what we are teaching them.  We are teaching them it’s okay to be mediocre.  You don’t have to practice longer or work harder.  You will still get a trophy?  This concept is one of the reasons some children do not try to excel.  Look at No Child Left Behind.  Did you know that once your child reaches a certain age in Junior High, the child has to be socially promoted to high school?  So, you have Child A that was taught by their parents that mediocre is not acceptable and has worked hard to make good grades and successfully pass, and then you have Child B who gets to walk across the stage and receive a diploma because he/she is too old to be in junior high.  Where are the good old days that included having to repeat a grade because you failed?!  You did not successfully learn what you were suppose to learn, so you have to repeat that grade.  What happen to those days?  Where are the days of the MVP receiving a trophy for being the best all around player and the others that were number one in various categories are awarded trophies for being the best in that category?

I refuse this mediocre concept and this politically correct concept of no trash talking.  Let’s teach our children to strive to be the best, and banish mediocre concepts and values.  

10 Things I’m Too Old To Do…

I posted this on Facebook several months ago.  I’m posting this on my Blog as a reminder to myself and others.

10. Lie – grown folks ain’t got no business doing that (yes, I said ain’t got no!)

9. Wear rachet clothes fashions 

8. Being seen in the same club with my children! (Absolutely not)

7. Bad work attendance (seriously)

6. Blaming others for my shortcomings

5. Cheating – go sat your old tail down!

4. Facebook drama (go cap lock @ work!)

3. Stalking my man’s FB, Twitter, Instagram while sneaking in his phone while he sleep! (Private eye much!)

2. Teething (this wisdom tooth kicking my butt)

1. Play with God!

What’s Your Passion?

Uncover your passion!

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Have you ever asked yourself what you are supposed to be doing in life? Periodically this question is asked and some find the answer. There are those who even quit lucrative money-earning jobs to pursue their passion. If you could do whatever you wanted to do right now, what would you be doing? This is one of the questions you can ask yourself to determine your passion.

When I was young, I wanted to be a corporate lawyer. Needless to say I didn’t go to law school, and I decided I wanted a business degree. I earned a Bachelors in Business and a MBA. I do work in the corporate world, but my real passion is teaching! I fulfilled that passion by teaching various classes at my church, and currently teach on the college level. I love experiencing the light bulb of knowledge that illuminates for students. It is awesome…

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What’s Your Passion?

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Have you ever asked yourself what you are supposed to be doing in life? Periodically this question is asked and some find the answer. There are those who even quit lucrative money-earning jobs to pursue their passion. If you could do whatever you wanted to do right now, what would you be doing? This is one of the questions you can ask yourself to determine your passion.

When I was young, I wanted to be a corporate lawyer. Needless to say I didn’t go to law school, and I decided I wanted a business degree. I earned a Bachelors in Business and a MBA. I do work in the corporate world, but my real passion is teaching! I fulfilled that passion by teaching various classes at my church, and currently teach on the college level. I love experiencing the light bulb of knowledge that illuminates for students. It is awesome to fulfill my passion.

Are you fulfilling your passion? If not, it’s time to uncover your passion. When we let our passion lead the way, the money will follow. When we love what we do, it’s shown and demonstrated by how we accomplish the daily tasks that come along with fulfilling our passion.

I have attached a passion exercise that can help you uncover your passion. Please complete the exercise and share your results.

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The Friend Code

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I’m convinced that some people do not know the definition of the word friend, and do not know how to be an authentic friend. To understand the lack of friendship principles of others would require a different post and more time. I was reviewing the various friends that have or still are in my life, and I created some friend categories.

The Needy Friend – we all have these type of friends. You only hear from them during a crisis, drama or when they want you to do them a “favor.” You know when their world is cohesive because they are MIA in your text and call logs.

The It’s All About Me Friend – whenever you talk to them the conversation revolves around their life. Anything you say they have a way if making it about them. If you call them because you need to vent, they end up taking over the conversation and it becomes their vent session.

The I’m Busy Friend – this is the friend who never makes time for their friends. They are always too busy. They neglect the friendship by not investing any time in the friendship. Oh, but let them enter a crisis phase! They answer your calls on the first ring. Before you complete your text, they are texting you!

The Talk Too Much Friend – they can’t keep a secret to save their life. They tell everything. If you want the word to be disseminated, this is who you tell. This is the entertaining friend. You always have a good time with this friend!

The I Have A Man/Woman Friend – whenever they have a man/woman in their lives, they kick ALL of their friends to the curb! They can’t go anywhere with you anymore because they spend all of
their free time with their man/woman. You won’t hear from them until there is trouble in paradise…

The I Got Yo Back Friend – this is the friend we all need. Their picture should be posted by the word friend. They are a confidant, advocate and will tell you when you’re wrong. You don’t have to talk every day, but when you do it’s like the comversation never stopped. They have your best interest at heart. If you need someone to pray, they are the one. A real friend.

Take a real assessment of yourself and determine what kind of friend are you. If you want to know the truth, ask your friends. Now, what actions are you going to take to be a better friend?

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Frank Friday!

I saw this meme on Instagram and immediately recognized Scar as a hater.  People try to say hating is not real, or a figment of our imagination.  Hating is just a newer term for envy and jealousy.  It’s unfortunate when people spread their hate secretly as they type I’m happy for you behind the monitor of a computer screen while their face looks like Scar’s in this pic.
I don’t understand hate.  Why are you mad at the man that decided to focus while in college and know that he would experience delayed gratification after graduation.  You on the other hand decided to party in school and get kicked out due to being placed on academic probation.  Fast forward to today and he is making six figures and traveling when he wants, and you are working two jobs to make ends meet.  Don’t hate!! You could’ve done the same.
Why are you mad at the young lady who waited until she was married to have children.  You on the other hand chose a different path and have to deal with baby daddies.  Don’t hate!  You could’ve done the same.
Let’s stop being mad and disliking people because of our choices.  Suck it up!! Now that you know better you can do better.
Happy Frank Friday!

Setting Goals 101

January is a good month to consider our goals for this year.  What do we want to accomplish this month, six months from now, or even this year?  Is your goal a good goal?  Is the goal a SMART goal?  You may be asking what does she mean by SMART.  Hold that thought for a moment…

I used to teach introductory college course for University of Phoenix.  One of the topics covered is setting goals, which leads to discussing the importance of goals.  Goals are important for several reasons:

  • Goals help you focus.
  • Goals help you be organized.
  • Goals help you manage your time effectively.
  • Goals help you have a sense of purpose.
  • Goals help you have a plan.
Now, back to SMART Goals.  A SMART Goal is not a new term.  Most have heard of SMART Goals, so this is just a refresher.  A good goal will meet the following criteria:
Specific – What do you plan to accomplish?  A specific goal should answer all appropriate questions:  who, what, when, where, which and why.  For example, a general goal is:  I will go to college.  A specific goal is:  I will take one five-week college accounting course beginning in February 2014.
Measurable – How will you measure your progress?  How will you know when you have reached your goal?
Attainable – What will be needed to accomplish this goal?  In order to reach the goal, do I need a new skill, finances, or even a different attitude.
Realistic – Have I set a goal that is reachable and challenging?  We don’t want to set a goal that is not reachable.  Setting unreachable goals leads to disappointment and failure.  For example:  I will win the Mega Million lottery this year.  Seriously?!
Timely – There should be a time limit on the goal.  Setting a time limit keeps us honest and provides the sense of urgency we need to accomplish our goals.
I challenge you to develop one SMART Goal and share with me your goal.  We can do whatever we set our minds to do.  We just need to establish SMART Goals.  One of my goals for this year was to start blogging in January.  Let’s hold each other accountable and provide encouragement along the way to reach our goals.  No more saying what we are going to do.  Let’s do it!

Why Blog?

Hi Everyone!

I decided to begin blogging to share my musings with all that need encouragement, affirmation and even a good laugh.  I love to encourage and share my expertise as it relates to character building, self-esteem lifting, education and furthering your goals in life.  Everything I share is for me first, and then for those who want to benefit from the information provided.  Each of us has some type of knowledge or experience that we can share to help others be successful.  Join me as I begin this new year with another chapter in my life journey, and along the way I will share information that has helped me along my path.

Teaching is my passion.  However, by day I work in the Customer Service field.  I don’t think there is anything that can compare to facilitating learning of others and witness the illumination of the light bulb of learning.  Feel free to share your positive thoughts and constructive criticism as you read my blog.  Constructive criticism can only help me be better.  How do you feel about constructive criticism?  What does effective constructive criticism look like to you?

Check out this link that provides some good information about constructive criticism:  Constructive Criticism